Jesus said to the crowds: “To what shall I compare the people of this generation? What are they like? They are like children who sit in the marketplace and call to one another,
‘We played the flute for you, but you did not dance. We sang a dirge, but you did not weep.’
For John the Baptist came neither eating food nor drinking wine, and you said, ‘He is possessed by a demon.’ The Son of Man came eating and drinking and you said, ‘Look, he is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ But wisdom is vindicated by all her children.”
This reading came at the most perfect time. Lately, I have been feeling extremely stressed. By lately, I mean the past few years, but particularly in recent weeks. I have had so much going on, tons of events and activities to balance and what seems like millions of thoughts to juggle all at once. About a month ago, I got engaged to an incredible man who has made my life so much more joyful and has challenged and helped me improve physically, mentally, and spiritually. This is the most exciting time of my life so far and God has blessed us both abundantly.
There are so many new and exciting things to think about and decisions to make. We recently bought a house together that we have been fixing up in time to move in on our wedding night. Though my fiancé is extremely handy and knowledgable about preparing houses, fixing up a house is not an easy task. Many decisions have to be made in terms of finances, decor, furniture, placement of things, and much more. Beyond that, wedding planning requires a lot of financial planning, aesthetic planning, logistics, ect. As two people coming together to truly celebrate the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony, there is a lot of spiritual preparation that needs to be done as well. All of this, plus preparing to unify two lives and two families, while exciting, can be a lot of work and a lot to think about.
On top of all of that comes daily life stresses, work, text messages, voicemails, thousands of emails, extra activities, family events, making time to see friends and still spending time with one another as a couple. Everything flying at you all at once can be a lot to juggle. Because of this, I haven’t been able to provide as much help, support, and time to people as I would like.
So, I’ve been feeling defeated. I can’t possibly “do it all.” Yet I try so hard to. I want to make everyone happy and be able to please everybody, and when I can’t I feel upset.
This is where the message of the Gospel comes in. Look at the way Jesus was received and judged by the people. They considered Him to be a glutton, a drunkard, friends with the “wrong” people. Notice Jesus acknowledges that even if He lived a life like John the Baptist He would be criticized for that too. What a relief. Even the Savior of the world didn’t have everyone’s approval. Really think about that. The creator of heaven and earth, who went as far as to die an excruciatingly painful and humiliating death so that we could be free from the bondage of sin and have eternal life– still couldn’t keep people happy. So why do I, a mere human and sinner, expect to make everyone in my life completely satisfied? It’s something to think about.
Nevertheless, it still can be a challenge trying to maintain balance and peace in your life while having to let some people down. Ultimately, it takes humility to accept that we cannot please everyone, patience to persevere through an overwhelming number of tasks to complete, discernment to decide which events and endeavors take precedence over others, and most importantly prayer. We have a God who has been right where we are Himself. Talk to Him, His yoke is easy and His burden is light. Plus He’s available 24/7 and always ready to listen.
Keep on going, but don’t forget to pace yourself and know when to sit in the silence and breathe. God Bless you and have a great week!